“I don’t mind being hated for my views,” says Alex Knepper, 20, a political science student at American University. Knepper wrote a column in the campus newspaper, The Eagle, which states that a woman who attends a fraternity party, drinks a lot of alcohol, and then accompanies a guy to his dorm room or apartment is suggesting to him that she wants to have sex and thus shouldn’t be able to wake up the next day and accuse him of rape. This is a conversation that even the editors of The Eagle realized was long overdue. Naturally, the feminists on campus had a different reaction.
It would be lovely if we lived in a utopia where rape was easily defined and young people were more responsible. Instead, we live in a society in which young people have too much freedom and very little moral guidance. Consequently, the rules for sex and relationships are sketchy at best. With dating a thing of the past and “hooking up” the new norm, men have no idea what women want anymore. Instead of acting with a mode of decorum — modesty, perhaps, and a little bit of class — women give men clear signals with their drunken words and actions. And when men act on this signal, they’re punished.
In an ideal world all young men, when they notice a girl is drunk, would escort her home — even if she does offer herself to him. I’ve known a few good men in my life who would do this. Unfortunately, most men will take most women up on sex when it is offered. And with drunkenness on campus being par for the course, it’s hard for men to distinguish a girl who’s just drunk from a girl who’s drunk and wants sex. Simply put: Women are acting foolish, and men are responding in kind.
This is not rape. It is bad behavior on everyone’s part, but it is not rape. To call it rape is to equate it with violence, fear for one’s life, and torn insides. For years feminists have been screaming “rape” as the new title for stupid sex — and university administrators have caved to the pressure.
“AU is committed to a safe environment for all and does not tolerate rape in any form or under any circumstance,” says vice-president Gail Short Hanson and provost Scott A. Bass.
This approach to sex is extremely open-ended. It gives women incredible power — which is precisely what feminists are after — to act irresponsibly anytime they choose and then cry victim whenever it suits them. This makes men, not women, the true victims of the “date rape” theory.
Bravo, Alex Knepper. I can’t imagine having the courage you have at your age. Oh, I suppose I should mention that Knepper is gay since everyone else who has written about this has made it a point to do. But I, for one, don’t see the relevance.